Being vs Doing

Many times in my life I focussed only in what I had to do in order to achieve goals.  I planned, defined strategies, set deadlines & milestones, tracked my progress with graphs and diagrams... and you know what, when I finally achieved my goals I ended up with a feeling of dissatisfaction and questioning myself:  Is this all about?
I had focussed so much in steps, in to-do lists, in getting things done that I missed completely the point of what moved me in the first place to set myself that goal. According to Tony Robbins, there are two different skills that one has to develop in order to excell in life:

• The Science of Achievement, which focusses mainly on DOING things (or alternatively, taking action and getting things done)
• The Art of Fulfillment, which focusses mainly on BEING, on the emotional state and the values that are expressed by the goals you set for yourself.

Many people tend to unbalance both skills and this results into difficulties either moving towards their goals (excess of fulfillment / lack of achievement) or feeling their motivation sinking (not enough focus on the values behind their actions).

Think about an specific area of your life where you have set yourself a goal and you find yourself delaying taking action to make it real.  On a scale from 0 to 10, where do you feel you are with respect to what is needed to achieve that goal?
How would it be like to be at a level 10?  What would you feel?  What is so important for you to reach that goal and be at that level? Would it be more confortable for you to be at a lower level, let's say 9? If so, what do you gain from being at a lower level?
If your answers touch your core values, you will find a shift in your emotions.

Now, let's go to the challenging part:  what do you lose by staying at a lower level? Imagine yourself in 20 years from now.  How would your life be like living in the same lower level all these years?  Which things have you given up by choosing to stay in the same level?

Imagine for a moment that you have already achieved your goal and you are living at the level of 10.  How does it feel?  imagine yourself 20 years in the future, living all these years at that level.  How would your life be like? If you had to choose an image, what would this image be?

You got the picture of your values expressed at a level of 10.  Will you commit to vision this image at least once a day for the next 10 days? it will keep your motivation high and give you a sense of anticipation on what you are about to move towards.  This is focussing on BEING.
I challenge you to go beyond, and share your dream and this image with somebody you love and from whom you can expect respect from your vision. I challenge you to ask him/her to help you remained focussed, by communicating him/her by phone after 10 days that you visioned your dream and your image.

Now, my friend, the time is ready to take more action. This is a journey that starts, as always does, with a very first step.
What is the first step that you will do today to move towards realizing your dream? Are your ready to take this step or your prefer keeping living in your current level for the next 20 years?  I bet you are ready, I know you can do it, and my allucination is that you know it as well.
Do you commit yourself to tell your chosen one by tomorrow what you have done towards making your dream real?
If you do, Congratulations!! You took action and you are now one step closer to your goal.
Just keep DOING while focussing every single day on your vision, your BEING, and you will achieve whatever your goal is and enjoy the journey!

The Challenge to Step Up

Recently I had a conversation with one of my coaches about the challenge and rewards to step up in order to achieve your goals.
If you ever have to make a decision between two things you want to do... how would you choose?
What are your priorities? What does move you towards one option? What is your motivation for the other option?

As Harv Eker said in his Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, rich people ask themselves in this situation How can I get this AND that? whereas poor people wonder how to make a decision, where by "rich" I mean people living in abundance in all areas of their life.
By asking yourself this question, you are challenged to find a way, to leave your comfort zone and step up, creating solutions, breaking old habits and mental belief patterns and increasing your personal power to become whatever you want in your life.


Many times in our lives we have heard the word compromise, meaning by that that we cannot get always what we want. Although knowing your priorities is essential to achieve any goal, that doesn't mean that you can only achieve the first at the cost of all the others. Of course it is much easier that way, but if your goals are really meaningful to you, change your beliefs, imagine what would be to get all of them, how would you get there, and take massive action. I guarantee you that not only you will get there, but you will enjoy your way towards your goals as a constant improving and expanding adventure and, what matters most, you will be more prepared to achieve even more challenging goals in the future.

When we never find the right moment...

There are times in our life that we know what we want to achieve, what we want to become.
Some of these times, we even know what to do.
And yet we find ourselves letting time pass by, as if we were going to live forever.

What prevent us from taking action?
What consequences does it have for us to let time pass by without moving towards our goals?

We can always find the right answer to the first question, an answer that suit us to avoid taking action.  There are as many excuses as people in the world, so there will probably be one convenient for you as well.
In my case, the answer is usually FEAR.  Fear to be wrong in my choice of goals (lack of clarity), fear not to be corageous enough to go along the path that, I believe, would take me to my goal, fear not to be good enough to get where I want...

Now, the second question, that is really a powerful one.  If I don't take action, I never get my goal.  As Einstein said, "insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results".
Can I live with that?

If the answer is yes, it was never something that I really wanted to be or get.  It was only something I would like to be or get without effort... like a dream.
If the answer is no, then it really matters to me to achieve this goal.  Why is it so important? What if I don't get it? What would I lose if I don't get it? Who would I become if I get it?
This gives me the clarity and the motivation to move towards my goals and take action continuously!

What happens if this is not enough?  If I find the motivation, and still I am frozen with my fear, how can I overcome it?  Let me tell you a secret... fear, to me is a good thing.  It means that I am feeling uncomfortable in my way to my goal, which means that the possibilities to grow and expand my personal power are as large as the fear I have.  Now, how to change fear into excitement?
Change your focus, dream about what you are about to become, see it as if it were already true.  Taste it.  Hear the things you will hear when you get there.  Use your imagination to feel the state you want to create into your reality.  It feels great, doesn't it?

Intensify your emotions, be really in this state, and take action from this state.  You are now a kid ready to get its birthday present, ready to open it.  You know it is ready for you.  You deserve it.  It is just a matter of some hours, or a little more time that you get it.  Take action from this state, the fear is gone, you are full of excitement, and your vision of your goal is travelling to your reality at full speed!

Goals from your soul

Many times we start writting a goal list.  And many times we don't follow through what it takes to achive them.
If we just dedicate a little less time to goal setting, and a bit more to feel what the goals really really REALLY mean for us, we will end up taking more action, getting momentum and achieving only those that are meaningful for us.


A friend of mine says "a human being always achieves what he/she wants.  If he/she doesn't achieve it, it means that he/she doesn't really want it".  I find this straight statement true in its core.
I invite you to take a moment to answer these questions from you heart:

What do you really want in your life now?


Why is it soooooo important for you to get it?


How would be your life if you get it?


How do you feel right now?


What are you ready to do in order to get what you want?


Which steps could you easily start with to move towards your goal right now?


Envision your life as if it were already true, take action, and start moving, full of clarity and energy, towards your goal.  It will be yours earlier than you thought!

Stand up! Go for it!

I have the fortune to share my life with my wonderful daughter.  When she started to walk, I saw that she kept falling down, once and again.  After some days, she managed to walk on her own and smiled proud to be able to run and hug me.
Many times in our life we start doing something new, and it doesn't work quite as we wanted.  Sometimes we feel frustrated.  We expected things to go smoothly from the beginning, and achive what we want immediately. If you are feeling like that right now, I want you to join in a journey... a journey to your past.
Remember when you were a child.
Remember what you felt anytime you discovered something new.
Bring back those feelings of curiosity, challenge, and desire.
Remember, you couldn't even walk at that time and you were already gazing that cup on the top of the table.
Bring back those feelings, look at your goal, and feel the same again.
Remember, you managed to walk, it is so natural now for you.
Become once more a child full of joy, love, and energy.
Stand up, keep trying, and go for it!

Turn the blows in your past into pieces of wisdom!

Reborn phoenix rising from its ashes

We all share moments of great pain, suffering and stress in our past.
Moments when we thought we got a sudden, unexpected, blow that challenged our core beliefs, our priorities, and the meaning of our life.

I believe that every single event that happens in our life is for our greater good.
Every aparent loss carries a learning, posses a challenge, and has a purpose.  Even when I am not conscious enough to see it.   The challenge appears when we are ready to take it.  Sometimes we can avoid it.  Sometimes not.

These blows are pearls of wisdom, especially designed for us to grow.  Getting fired from a job... losing a loved person... having a car crashed... it is not an accident.  There is always something essential to learn from it.  Something that our soul needed us to learn... and it didn't find a smoother way to show us.  Once we learn the lesson, we are ready to rise again from our ashes... and endowed with this new piece of wisdom, reborn like a phoenix, we become more, we shine more light, we become stronger.

Take a moment to recall one of the most painful moments of your past.
Remember what happened.
Ask yourself what you learnt from that moment.  What can you learn right now?  How can you use what you learnt for your happiness right now?  How will you use these learnings in your life... in your finances... in your job... in your relationships? Ask yourself once and again what is the pearl of wisdom hidden in this event... ask yourself and write them down... until you fill up yourself with a feeling of gratitude.
Gratitude for what you believed it was a blow, and you now discovered as an extremely valuable experience... a pearl of wisdom you now fully appreciate.

Thank yourself for letting you take the time to heal from the blow and recognize the wisdom behind.
Thank yourself for all the love that you are showering onto you by dedicating this moment to learn from your wounds.  They exist no more.
Thank yourself for all the Good you are now able to share, for the increased courage, strength, and awareness.  You are ready to fly again... have a good journey, dear friend.

Death in life... wake up!!!

You are already dead.
It is just a matter of time that you realize it, but you are dying.

Are you afraid of it? Are you happy about it?
You believe you will live forever... and it is not true.  Not in a physical way, at least.  And you don't know how much time you are left.

What will you do about it?
Will you wait till the end of your days, living others life, others dreams?
Will you keep reviving old memories, anchored in past times?

Life is to be here and now. To enjoy what we currently have. To define our dreams and strive for them from now. Not next week,... not tomorrow.  For next week is too far away... and tomorrow never comes. We have only this moment. Seize it. Juice it. Day after day.  Happy birth-date!